Attachment and Detachment

Scribbled By Monday, October 8, 2012 0 , , Permalink 0

If I have been asked, what’s the sole reason of our miseries, problems and troubles? Then attachment to things is most irrefutable answer. Though, its not the only reason but other reasons are directly or indirectly comes out from it. We human beings are attached to so many things in this world. Be it our friends, our job, our parents or our love. When it comes to people the one who is more closer to our heart, more we are attached to him/her.

If getting attach to something is a wrong thing? Mere attachment is not a wrong thing, but attachment often gives birth to clinging which later on becomes the reason of suffering and pain. The worst part is then detachment. We can control
attachment up to an extent but detachment is never in our hand which then becomes the soul cause of difficulties in life. Anyhow, if we succeeded in getting detach to one thing then we shall get attach to some other thing. This phenomenon of attachment and detachment continues throughout our life.

Few days back, I read an article on TOI which was about the same topic. It took the example of balloon seller. A balloon seller inflates a few balloons, ties a thread around each one and wraps those threads around his fingers. When someone comes to buy a balloon, he removes one from one of his fingers and gives it away. Then he inflates another balloon and ties it to his finger again.

Our mind is like the balloon seller. Myriad different objects in the world entice us like balloons and our desires are like the threads that keep our mind attached to the objects. The moment one desired object is acquired, it gets detached from our mind. But our mind immediately inflates another one and promptly gets attached to it!

Now, when does the balloon seller stop this repeated activity of detaching and reattaching balloons to his fingers? Possibly, at the end of his workday when he thinks he must go home now. Then he disposes of his last balloon and does not inflate any more balloons. So, now he becomes detached from the balloons, but only temporarily. Again, the next morning, he is out to repeat the cycle of inflating, attaching and detaching balloons. The same thing happens in our life.

But the important question is why we get attached to things? The reason according to me is we human beings are more emotional when compared to other animals. Getting attached to something gives us a feeling of satisfaction and provides us a moral support and security. Even when we know the things with which we are getting attached today, we have to detach from it some other day. Then also we chose to get attached. There are two reasons behind it the first one and the prominent one is getting attach to something is not totally in our hand. Second one is we have to live in present. What will happen in future is unpredictable so to avoid getting attach to things with the fear of getting detach in future is not a good option.

Though the concept of attachment and detachment is important reason of unhappiness, troubles and problems its also the reason of happiness, joy and peace. Things are always balanced in the end. If there is no sadness then there is no happiness. The concept of detachment from the whole samsara is not a practical approach to live life in today’s era. Its better to live a life that has witnessed utmost of joys and deepest of pains, then to live a life which has not witnessed any worldly joy and happiness. Live life on simple concepts get attached to things but try not to cling them, attachment is because of love and when you love someone with conditions and expectations, your love is limited and will bring miseries in later stage. Love is not meant to bring miseries; it is meant to expand our life to infinite joy. Try your best to get attached with the things till  you can control, If one day you have to detach move on. So that one day when you are old and look back over your life, you must have something to smile.

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